Hello everyone! I’ll be returning to college soon (I’m now a university student!) and will be pursuing human sexuality as a minor. This will include taking a number of classes around gender and sexuality and I hope to share my studies and relevant papers here as they happen. The lack of updates recently has had to do with focusing on work and taking care of myself in some important ways - I am getting in gear to resume more regular updates again.
Thank you all for your support,
This form of storytelling highlights the internal dilemmas that many feel when facing the realization of non-heteronormality, and non-gender normality. This project tells one girl’s story through her eyes as she comes to the realization that she is genderqueer and not someone’s stereotype of normality.
The interactive takes a little time to load sometimes so please be patient! This is the contents of my heart over the past year and I want to share and help others who have had to struggle with the same issues as I have. I hope this will be helpful!
After putting in hours of work over the past four days this site has been up, I can finally say we’re fully open for business.
As far as our blog content goes though, we’d love to hear from you!
We’re all about nonbinary and genderqueer visibility, so we’re looking for submission of art, photography, stories, music, poetry, comics, videos, anything you make to do with your nonbinary gender experience that you’d like to share with others! You’ll receive full credit, of course.
We’d really appreciate you signal-boosting this post so we can reach a wider audience
We’re really excited at how the resource centre is taking off and would like to thank everyone for their support. We can only hope it gets even better with more people joining our community and sharing their stories and experiences.
Gretchen McCulloch, The Toast’s resident linguist, on why we have gendered pronouns at all, and where they may be headed.
Great piece on gendered pronouns in English, including more support for singular they and interesting historical information.
The Center for Sex and Culture and lots of other fabulous organizations are climbing the chart for donors and donations for Give OUT Day! Thank you everyone for your support. Less than 3 hours remain to donate: http://giveout.razoo.com/story/Center-For-Sex-And-Culture
Find out more about the Center here: http://www.sexandculture.org/mission
Once again, CSC has been incredibly important to my development in academics and self-acceptance in gender and sexuality. I am proud to have been a part of the Center since 2011, from a volunteer to intern to board member. Let’s help keep this resource available and sustainable!
Holy wow! Give OUT Day has been extended to 11:59pm EST 5/16 (that’s TOMORROW!) due to Razoo being down for a couple of hours today. Razoo is back up now, so this means LOTS more time to support Center for Sex and Culture. Let’s keep those donations rolling, and get to #1 in the Bay Area and National Leader Boards!: http://giveout.razoo.com/story/Center-For-Sex-And-Culture
There are lots of wonderful organizations to support for Give OUT Day and we are incredibly grateful that the time to donate has been extended. At the time I’m writing this, the Center for Sex and Culture — a wonderful event space and library — is approaching $10,000 in donations from nearly 200 donors. If you have even $10 to spare, please consider supporting CSC. The Center has been a wonderful growing space for me and has enabled and encouraged me to accept myself and continue my work around non-binary identity.
Trans* Ally Workbook, an excellent, concise resource now available at Modern Times! (at Modern Times Bookstore Collective)
Not in San Francisco? Buy the book in digital ($4) or print form ($8) online!:
Inclusive of non-binary identities and easy to understand. I approve!
«this compilation was done by the rad folks at genderqueerid.com. Any recs or words are written by them, not me (Aida)»
Last updated April 18, 2014. This list is also available in Tumblr reblog format, which has 8,000+ notes - thanks everyone!
The following are link and book recommendations, all evaluated myself, as helpful resources that relate to genderqueer and non-binary concepts and identities. If there is a resource you would like to suggest, please use the GQID submit form.
Genderqueer and Non-Binary Friendly Tumblrs
a-gender, all-none-or-inbetween, Closet Problems, crushingthebinary, DMAB Delightful, Fat Genderqueers!, The Feminine Neutrois, Freedom Centre: FC Yeah!, Fuck Yeah Androgyny!, Fuck Yeah Genderless, Fuck Yeah Gender Studies!, fyeahtransfashion, the gender bender agenda, The Gender Book, Genderforkr, GenderPanic, Gender Queeries, Genderqueer, The Genderqueer Activist, GenderQueer Confessions, Genderqueer Plus, Genderqueer Positivity, Genderqueer Pride, GenderQueer Problems, Gendered Intelligence, Género Queer y No-binario (Spanish), Hell Yeah Agender!, KNOW Homo, LGBTQ Asks, littlenonbinarythings, Heartland Trans* Wellness Group, Neutrois, Nonbinary, The Nonbinary Army, Non-binary Artists, Nonbinary Autistics!, Nonbinary Confessions, nonbinaryheadcanons, nonbinarynerd, nonbinaryparenting, The Non-Binary Safe Space, Nonbinary Sex, nonbinary-support, Non-Op, Practical Androgyny, Pride Flags for Us, The Pronoun Learning Resource, Queerability, Queer Dictionary, safequeersex, The Safe Space Network, Smashing the Binary, The —- Space!, T.R.A.N.S., Transcending Anatomy, Transgender Housing Network, The Transgender Teen’s Survival Guide, transqueery, Trans* Resource, Trans Student Equality Resources, Trans*toons, Tucking and Other Skills, waryofthebinary, We Are Gender-Fluid!, whatdoesenbymean, ygender[queer]
GQ and Non-Binary Friendly Subreddits
GQ and Non-Binary Friendly Livejournal Communities
GQ and Non-Binary Friendly deviantART Groups
Websites and FAQs
Androgyny Rarely Asked Questions, Crossdreamers, Genderfork, Genderology, Genderpedia, Genderqueer in the UK, GenderQueer Revolution, Gender Sphere, Gender Splendour, Heartland Trans* Wellness Group, Nonbinary.org, Non-Op: Another Option (Archived), pipisafoat: FAQ on Genderqueers, Gender Expression, and Gender Variance, Practical Androgyny, Queer Lexikon (German), Tipping the Scales, T-Vox, We Happy Trans, World Professional Association for Transgender Health, YGender
Organizations and Events: Click here for a list
Forums and Groups
AVEN: Gender Discussion, GenderQueer Atheists Group on Facebook, Last.fm: Genderqueers Group, Laura’s Playground, Scarleteen: Gender Issues, Steam Community: Genderqueer, Susan’s Place, #transchat, TransYada, TQ Nation, What is Gender?
Prounouns and Titles
The Art of Transliness: Gender Neutral Relational Terms, Gender Neutral Pronoun Blog, Gender Queeries: Gender Neutral/Queer Titles, Genderqueer in the UK: Misc, or Mx: A Gender-neutral Title, MIT’s Ally Toolkit: Gender Neutral Pronoun Usage, Warren Wilson: Using Gender-Neutral Language in Academic Writing
Articles: Click here for a list
Fun, Videos, Podcasts, & Performance
Agender Earthworm, Facts About Queers (Humor), Fuck Yeah Non-Binary Seahorse, Genderqueer Chat, Gendercast: Our Transmasculine Genderqueery, Genderqueer Giraffe, Gender Queeries, Kreative Korporation: Yay genderform! (a comprehensive and fun-to-play-with list of gender, sex, orientation, and more identities), Midwest Genderqueer, regender: A Different Kind of Translator, Trans Parrotfish
Gender Diversity Project, Gender Spectrum: Resources, Queer Teaching Tips, Safe Schools Coalition, TRANScending Identities: A Bibliography of Resources on Transgender and Intersex Topics, Trans What?: A Guide Towards Allyship
Sex Ed: Click here for a list
The Trevor Project: “The leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services” to LGBT youth: 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386) Also available for matters of less pressing urgency, Dear Trevor is an “online, non-time sensitive Question & Answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity.” A directory of previous questions in the category of Transgender/Genderqueer is also available.
Fashion and Transitional Gear: Click here for a list
Banner:This Journal is Gay/Lesbian, Bisexual, Pansexual, Transgender, Intersex, Genderqueer, Asexual Positive banner (with flags). Designed by Neth Dugan.
Note: Use Worldcat.org, the world’s largest global library catalog, to see if the book you’re seeking is available at a library near you or click the links below to be directed to an Amazon purchase link (when available).
The Gender Book - Mel Reiff Hill and Jay Mays
Gender Now Coloring Book - Maya Christina Gonzales
Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us - Kate Bornstein
Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation - Kate Bornstein
Books and essays by Ivan Coyote
Grrl Alex: A Personal Journey to a Transgender Identity - Alex Drummond
GenderQueer: Voices From Beyond the Sexual Binary - Joan Nestle, Riki Wilchins, Clare Howell
Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity - Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore
PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality - Carol Queen and Lawrence Schimel
Queer Theory, Gender Theory - Riki Anne Wilchins
Read My Lips: Sexual Subversion and the End of Gender - Riki Anne Wilchins
Trans Bodies, Trans Selves (in-progress) - Laura Erickson-Schroth
whatever.odt (free!) - JD O’Meara
That’s Revolting!: Queer Strategies for Resisting Assimilation - Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore
Transgender Voices: Beyond Women and Men - Lori B. Girshick and Jamison Green
Transition and Beyond: Observations on Gender Identity - Reid Vanderburgh
(Looking for a list of books concerning gender, sex, and orientation that aren’t genderqueer specific instead? Click here)
Book lists compiled by others:
Made another update after many months since the last, removing broken links and adding some new resources!
ITS A BOOK! The GENDER book shower
5/4/2014 7-9pm at the Center for Sex and Culture in San Francisco
Join us for an evening of games, giveaways, activities, coloring book pages, Q&A with the creators, art, movies, and community magic celebrating the birth of the GENDER book into the world.
WHEN: Sunday May 4th, 7-9 pm
WHERE the Center for Sex and Culture, 1349 Mission St, San Francisco
WHO: You! everyone! This is an all-gender, all-ages event, though you should have a parent to keep you away from some of the off-limits reading material if you’re under 18.
WHAT: A launch party full of fun, games, and time to mingle and get your books signed!
WHY: We saw the need for greater gender understanding in our worlds and wanted to do something about it. Thus, the GENDER book was born as a guerrilla education tool. We’ve been incubating this project for the past five years. It started as a 6-page booklet, and with the community support of hundreds of your voices it has blossomed into a beautiful 90-page full color hardback. Come celebrate our progress and be the first on your block to get a copy!
HOW MUCH? Suggested donation $5, but no one turned away for lack of funds. Bring $30 if you want to take home your own copy of the GENDER book.
Modern Times Bookstore Collective is hiring an Events Coordinator!
Modern Times is the West Coast’s oldest collectively-run independent bookstore and a proud member of the Network of Bay Area Worker Cooperatives and the Northern California Independent Bookseller’s Association. We are celebrating our 43rd year of book selling and rabble-rousing and carry a wide range of new and used books, including books in Spanish, host diverse community events, and maintain relationships with many progressive local organizations.
The Events Coordinator is a part-time, unbenefited position that starts at $10.74/hr, 12-16 hours per week. The Events Coordinator is eligible to potentially become a Modern Times Collective Member in the future. The Events Coordinator will work with a volunteer Events Committee to create unique, diverse and ongoing events for the Bookstore.
Primary Responsibilities Include:
• booking and promoting in-store and off-site author readings, classes and events
• responding to requests for events and pro-actively creating diverse events with authors, publishers, publicists, bookbuyers, catalogues, political organizations and communities; obtaining promotional materials
• publicizing events through monthly calendar, press releases for print and online media, email lists, websites, social media and targeted outreach to organizations and businesses
• designing ads and bimonthly newsletter
• overseeing Web content
• maintaining email outreach list
• coordinating window displays highlighting events
• arranging for event setup at MT
• other tasks as assigned by MT collective and steering committee
• bookstore love and knowledge
• events coordination and organization
• experience and commitment to working collectively and with a wide range of individuals, including volunteers
• commitment to local community and social/racial/economic justice
• excellent verbal and written skills
• self-directed with strong time management skills
• attention to detail, flexibility; accountability; timeliness; sense of humor
• computer literacy, particularly with social media, Adobe Photoshop, InDesign, Mailchimp, Google Docs and Calendar
• bookstore experience
• familiarity with publicity and marketing protocols
• retail/sales/shipping/inventory management; customer service
• bilingual (Spanish/English)
• HTML and CSS content creation/troubleshooting on Wordpress
• email newsletter management with Mailchimp
• direct relationships with local authors and community/political organizations
• knowledge of current political landscape
• willingness to work at the Bookstore’s front desk
• interest in potentially becoming a MT collective member
Modern Times Bookstore Collective is located in the heart of SF’s Mission District, 2919 24th Street, SF 94110. We are open Monday-Saturday 11:00 – 9:00 and Sunday 11:00 – 8:00. To Apply: Please send cover letter and resume to email@example.com by April 25, 2014. No phone calls please. Start Date: May (specific date TBD). We strongly encourage applications from those who identify as trans, gender queer, queer, people of color or women.
I apologize for the extended hiatus this blog is on, as I’ve been focusing on working and a variety of projects. I clicked to the GQID tab on my dashboard and noticed that this site has passed 5000 followers. Wow! Thank you all so much for the interest and support. I will make an effort to post updates more frequently than every now and again. Unfortunately I no longer have the time to answer every question that comes in, but I will note that many of them are the same or similar to previously asked questions, so clearly the FAQ needs some updating.
Facebook announced today that they have added options to choose a custom gender, other than male or female, and assign the appropriate pronouns to yourself while retaining the ability to filter who is able to see your selections. For transgender and gender non-conforming people, this is a welcome update that will ensure they are able to safely express their authentic selves online.
Here’s how to edit your gender on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/help/276177272409629
Great news! I would like to note that one may currently only select identities Facebook lists as genders in the custom box (and you may select more than one!) and that she/her/hers, he/him/his, and they/them/theirs are the pronouns selectable. A friend tried this out and had to switch to Facebook (US) to get it to work; I am hoping it will shift to all country / language settings soon. I’d love to also see the addition of writing in whatever you like, as well and I’d recommend that people reach out to Facebook Diversity for suggestions.
Here are the genders that Facebook offers as selections - let me know if I missed any and I will update the post to include them:
Agender, Androgyne, Androgynous, Bigender, Cis (or Cisgender, for all Cis options), Cis Female, Cis Male, Cis Man, Cis Woman, FTM, Gender Fluid, Gender Nonconforming, Genderqueer, Gender Questioning, Gender Variant, Intersex, Male to Female, MTF, Neither, Neutrois, Other, Non-binary, Pangender, Trans (Trans*, Transgender, and Transsexual are available, for all Trans options), Trans Female, Transfeminine, Trans Male, Trans Man, Transmasculine, Trans Person, Trans Woman, Two-spirit
Feb 25, 2014 8:00 PM - 10.00 PM
Get Tickets ($15): http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/581214
Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission Street San Francisco, CA 94103
Join SFSI Seminars for a sex education career panel!
This seminar’s goal is to present diverse perspectives on how sex education can play an integral and rewarding role in your career. Our panel will include sex educators working in the public sphere and on school campuses, a sex therapist, a nurse, and more. The panel’s speakers will share their words of wisdom and answer all of your pressing questions!
Tickets are now available for SFSI Seminar’s Sex Education Career Panel. We’re excited to bring together this diverse group for your benefit, and we recommend that you reserve your seat now!
Our panel will feature:
SFSI’s own Yvonne Piper
About SFSI Seminars:
Ever wanted to learn more about how to teach or work with a certain topic, but can’t find the right workshop? Sex educators, therapists, and health field professionals work with a constantly evolving body of knowledge. Join SFSI for a night of education on and exploration of a certain topic, led by a specialist in the field. Never stop learning!