Last updated December 19, 2012. Please be aware that content includes sex and sexuality and some links may be considered “NSFW”.
It can be incredibly challenging to find information about sex and sexuality geared toward or focused around genderqueer and non-binary people. The lack of coverage of these identities in mainstream resources as well as trans* people in general has been a major barrier for sex health and sex education access in these populations and puts these populations at risk not only in the realm of personal sexual health and knowledge, but in the realm of personal fulfillment and intimacy. These populations include people who define their sexuality or asexuality in as wide a variety as those who are cissexual and cisgender do, though widespread respect for those panoply of sexual identities is as of yet forthcoming. There are various reasons for this lack of attention, from intentional erasure on one extreme end to fear of perpetuating a confusion and conflation of gender and sexual orientation on the other hand and thus, making a critical error in not exploring such an important topic. Another reason is concern about potentially fetishizing trans* people by reducing them to their sexual orientation: it must be made clear that fetishization and objectification as having a personal investment in the well-being about the sexualities of these populations. The gap in information on the sexuality of trans* people, non-binary, and genderqueer people has fortunately been narrowing in recent years, as well as the understanding that one’s own gender or sex identity is not the same as and does not necessarily imply a specific sexual orientation. Access to information about intimate relationships, sexual orientation, sexual health, and both general and specialized sex ed are important for everyone to have.
Some resources don’t cover trans*, non-binary, and/or genderqueer sexuality specifically, though most do. This is not to say that these resources should be ignored because of their lack of attention to these populations: they may nonetheless contain valuable information that can be gleaned with the understanding that there may be shortcomings in terms of inclusiveness.
Advocates for Youth: “Advocates for Youth champions efforts to help young people make informed and responsible decisions about their reproductive and sexual health.” A couple sample resources: I Think I Might Be Transgender, Now What Do I Do? and Sex Education Resource Center.
Back Pocket Flagging Guide: This guide discusses and shows colors and symbols for a trans* and genderqueer-inclusive “hanky code”, which is meant to show sexual preferences and sometimes identity as well.
Scarleteen: Scarleteen maintains a comprehensive website dedicated to answering questions about sexuality geared toward teens and young adults, but accessible beyond these ranges as well. GQ-relevant articles are included at genderqueer article tag and the Gender Issues forum is a place where gender questions can be asked that result in friendly and helpful responses. Genderqueer is included in their glossary.
Sex, Etc.: “Sex education by teens, for teens!” Sex ed geared to young people with an incredibly welcoming, positive environment for queer and trans* people. Genderqueer is included in their glossary. An article about identity on their site appears from a a 14 year-old contributor who identifies as genderqueer.
SIECUS Community Action Kit: A top position statement of the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States involves their commitment to gender equality: “SIECUS believes that gender equality and equity are fundamental human rights. Society must recognize how gender-based stereotyping, including prejudice toward transgender, transsexual, and intersex individuals, can result in harmful consequences…” Community Action Kit provides resources to become an advocate for sexuality education. See also the SIECUS list of resources for young people.
Trans Sexuality by Tobi Hill-Meyer (free-to-distribute .pdf!)