Posts tagged genderqueer.

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Hello, my name is Carolyn Greenblatt and I am a clinical psychology doctoral candidate at Adelphi University. I am conducting a study that explores the relationship between experiences of transphobic discrimination, social support, and mental health among adults who identify as transgender, genderqueer, and/or gender non-normative. Participants will be asked to fill out a confidential online questionnaire including open-ended and close-ended questions. 

Individuals who are eligible to participate are 18 years or older and identify as transgender, genderqueer, or any other non-binary or non-cisgender gender identity. Participants will be asked to fill out several online questionnaires.  There are questions about demographics, feelings about gender identity, how one thinks and feels about themself, 4 questions about suicidality, and one’s experience of different types of social support. Participants will also be asked to answer questions about different types of discrimination and victimization they may have experienced in a more open-ended format. All survey responses are confidential.

This study should take between 20-45 minutes. Participation is completely voluntary and participants are free to stop at any point, without consequences. There will be no monetary compensation for completing the study, although individuals may benefit from discussing their experiences. Participation will also help in developing a greater understanding of how transphobic discrimination and social support is related to psychological well-being in transgender and gender non-conforming individuals.

If you or anyone you know might be interested in participating, use the following link to access the survey online:

Thank you for your time.

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This is my capstone (senior) project. Beyond Binary is a form of creative expression designed to resemble the style of Japanese visual novels and American motion comics. Beyond Binary utilizes JavaScript, JQuery, HTML5, and Adobe Illustrator to create a new web based form of interactive storytelling.

This form of storytelling highlights the internal dilemmas that many feel when facing the realization of non-heteronormality, and non-gender normality. This project tells one girl’s story through her eyes as she comes to the realization that she is genderqueer and not someone’s stereotype of normality.

The interactive takes a little time to load sometimes so please be patient! This is the contents of my heart over the past year and I want to share and help others who have had to struggle with the same issues as I have. I hope this will be helpful!

"I'm okay with being AFAB. To be honest, I really couldn't give a shit whether I am female or not. I wear constant gender-neutral clothing, and am pansexual. Can I consider myself genderqueer? I just feel strange because a lot of the community have problems with their body, but I don't." by Anonymous

Dysphoria is a common theme, but it is certainly not a requirement for identifying as genderqueer. Check out this recent post for more on why. There are many GQ folks that are comfortable with their bodies or even their sex assignment, just as there are many who are not or are working on ways to become more comfortable.  ~Marilyn

"I'm dfab, but as long as I can remember my body hasn't really matched up to my gender. At least not all the time. Even when I was a kid I loved being mistaken for a boy. That being said, I do like dressing and acting female at times, but often it (1)" by Anonymous

Question, cont.: Just causes me serious disphoria. I work in a very gender segregated work place, and I’m scared and confused of my brains inability to “pick a side” as it were. Knowing that being gender queer is an option is comforting, but living in America it  doesn’t seem like much of one. There doesn’t seem to be anywhere I feel comfortable, except the internet, I guess. I don’t know what to tell my boyfriend or coworkers or family, and I’m scared that I’m just making it up in my head.


Hello there,

Many people with similar identities can relate to what you’re describing. The challenge of navigating social spaces that are likely to be unfamiliar with genderqueer identity and pondering the dilemma of coming out (or not) are common, even if difficult, experiences, so you are not alone here.

If at all possible, I would suggest looking into an LGBTQ or trans*/genderqueer-specific support group in your area or use Internet resources to connect with people with similar identities in your area. The Internet can be a great place for revealing sides of yourself that you may not feel ready to, or safe to, come out about in physical space, but it is incredibly comforting to be able to interact with others who may share some of your experience.

Although non-binary and gender non-conforming identity and presentation is nothing new, the term genderqueer is and the awareness of the concept in the mainstream is even newer. Recommending resources to people who you do feel comfortable coming out to (and remember, you don’t have to unless you want to) and checking out the coming out masterpost may also be helpful to you.

In regards to feeling like it is being made up in your head, you may want to have a look at my response to If a gender identity falls in the forest and no one can hear it, does it make a sound?


"I've been thinking a lot more about it lately, and I think that there's a strong possibility that I fall somewhere on the genderqueer spectrum. I have a couple of questions regarding gender expression. I'm biologically female, and some days I'm not fully comfortable with my body, and was wondering if you have any suggestions for hiding/compressing my chest. I've heard that some people use sports bras... for the time being, would that be okay, and if it is, do you have any recommendations?" by Anonymous

Hello there,

Yes, sports bras (as well as some DIY methods) can be useful for chest compression / binding. Hudson’s Guide (though geared towards trans* men) is a useful resource and I’d recommend you check out this post about safety precautions if you are concerned. If anyone has specific sports bras that work great for binding, please feel free to suggest them here.


"So I was assigned female at birth but I identify as genderqueer. But I dont really care, like I told my best friend about it, and a couple others. But I dont really care if I'm out to others. I'm fine being seen as an andro/queer girl. Is this normal" by skele-gay

Hello there,

Yes, it certainly is totally fine, and many others have taken a similar approach. Not everyone feels the need to be out to everyone, or anyone at all, and people may have varying degrees of comfort or discomfort with being seen in certain ways.


"I am genetically a female, and I don't feel uncomfortable with having a chest or a vagina. I do have female interests, as well as others that are androgynous. However, I feel indifferent when I try to define myself with either gender. On that note, I have always been incapable of seeing my past partners (from both genders) as either gender, even though they themselves, define with one. Gender is not what I see, I see an entity of their person. Am I bisexual or genderqueer? Or something else?" by Anonymous

Hello there,

There are a number of things that could be going on in your case - it could be gender, sexuality, or a combination of the two. Body dysphoria is not a requirement for identifying as genderqueer (or any other identity) and behavior or interests gendered by yourself and/or society may not necessarily line up with gender identity either.

Many bisexual and pansexual people describe themselves as being more attracted to the person than to the gender or sex. Of course, there are others who do find specific qualities of various identities attractive, but it is still noteworthy as a common characteristic. Additionally, as someone mentioned in a reblog of this question, whether you attach importance to someone else’s gender identity as a factor in how you’re attracted to them or not, their identity may still be quite important to them, so keep this in mind.

Some people who feel like they don’t have a gender or feel gender neutral may find that agender or neutrois describes them. Other people may indeed be okay and comfortable identifying with a gender, but not attach too much importance to it in their mind or see how it is relevant most often. I can’t say for sure what you’re experiencing, but these concepts may be helpful to consider.


"Do you think it's common for GQ, GNC or agendered ppl to feel uncomfortable/avoid certain "gendered" traits so others can properly identify them? I like wearing both genders clothes, but I feel I have to avoid "girly" stuff. I like growing my hair out every two years, but feel that people will never see me as anything but female if I'm in a dress with long hair. Doest this just chap your ass?? (I feel like a guy in drag when I wear "girl clothes", and that's ok)" by gracefulwraith

Yes, I certainly do think so. In some spaces, around certain company, or due to pressures and expectations (societal or self-created), there can sometimes be a tendency to enter into the question of whether to sacrifice or uphold personal style versus recognizability as what others understand as being a given gender. This is handled very differently from individual to individual and it can be frustrating to have to weigh the pros and cons of either route.


"Hey:) Awhile ago I started identifying as bigendered, because I feel as if I am both male and female. Recently though I have seen stuff saying the bigenders are people who have two set boy and girl identities and swing between them, but that's not me. I feel I am both, and am ALWAYS both. I am physically a girl who has always dressed a bit boyish most days and little girly some days and called a mix of 'ma'ma' and 'sir's all days. So what am I, so to speak? Bigender, plain genderqueer, or what??" by Anonymous

Hello there,

I have seen bigender used both to refer to continuous, simultaneous identity and a fluid movement from one gender to another. It troubles me when there is stern insistence that a certain term must never mean something that is entirely possible for it to mean (like when people say that “true” bisexual people must always be attracted in exactly the same capacity to men and women).  Androgyne is another identity term that is used to refer to a mix of man and woman that you may be interested in looking into, although androgyny can also just be used to refer to fashion, behavior, or gender ambiguity. I would say I have seen bigender more commonly used when there is a strong impression of two genders, and for androgyne to refer to more of a blended sense of gender.


"Is being gender noncomforming is the same as gendrqueer like I hate being told that becuase im a boy im not allowed to wear or like things that society tells me what a male is supposed to like,wear,or do." by Anonymous

Hello there,

Great question! They’re not the same, but the terms are closely related and there can be overlap. Gender non-conforming tends to be used for presentation and sometimes behavior, while genderqueer has been used for identity, presentation, and behavior. I deal with this more in an answer to another question on GQID over here, along with defining genderqueer and non-binary. Which terms you are comfortable using depends on what you find accurate and empowering.


"I feel guilty because I'm GQ and not dysphoric. :(" by Anonymous

Hello there -

Although dysphoria is a common narrative throughout trans*, genderqueer, and non-binary identities, it is not essential. Medical and psychological discourse around trans* issues is part of why dysphoria has been so emphasized, but it really is not a requirement for having an identity outside of the binary or somewhere in the trans* spectrum.

People in these communities feel all kinds of different ways about their bodies - love, feeling indifferent, mixed, dislike certain aspects, hate - and about whether or not they want to have certain bodily changes. Feelings may also be shaped differently over time. Check out these posts for more information:

I hope this helps.


"Hi! I've got lots of questions but the space is limited, so I'll write just a few. 1. How does gender in dreams relate to real gender identity? 2. Can someone have no gender identity (I mean not deeply set and not defining the self)(not cis, not trans, not queer)(+not very against, just living)? 3. Being not over the moon with your own gender and not being very attatched to it is not being cis, right? Or can it be? 4. How much does the 'gq thing' deal with how you look?" by Anonymous


These are all excellent questions! I will do my best to answer them.

1. How does gender in dreams relate to real gender identity?

Some trans*, genderqueer, and non-binary people may have dreams in which they present and are seen in the ways that they identify, perhaps even having bodies or other scenarios unfold that would be difficult or impossible in real life. So too can some cisgender people have dreams of crossdressing or alternate bodies, situations that they may or may not actually want. I would recommend not only relying on dream content to verify whether one is a certain identity or not, but think about waking-life clues and feelings on the subject as well.

2. Can someone have no gender identity?

Some people may have no strong feelings about their gender, or gender at all. There are also those who believe that gender is an inherently harmful and unnecessary construct and do not describe or name their gender in any way. As for naming it, agender is the most commonly used term for this situation, though this is considered a non-binary identity.

3. Being not over the moon with your own gender and not being very attatched to it is not being cis, right? Or can it be?

There are certainly cisgender people who don’t think much about their own gender or gender in general, or might have problems and pressures that come up because of gender.

4. How much does the ‘gq thing’ deal with how you look?

It really depends on the person. Genderqueer people may or may not choose to use gender presentation in the form of fashion and items like breast forms, packers, gaffs, and binders to adjust their appearance as desired. Some genderqueer people want to align their gender identity with their presentation in a way that may be more recognizable to others (such as an androgynous person dressing androgynously) and feel like they are totally expressing themselves as they want to, while others may feel like doing this would sacrifice their own sense of style and have to weigh the pros and cons of potentially being recognized as how they identify more often versus giving up their personal style.


"A few years back I came out as genderqueer, then as a trans* man, and now I'm feeling kind of genderfluid, but since I've also come out at various points as half a dozen different orientations (sexual ones, then ace ones), I'm really sick of coming out, but I feel like my gender and orientation are just too complicated and ever-shifting to pin down. Is there a way to stop coming out? Or maybe a term that covers this kind of experience?" by Anonymous

Hello there,

A feeling of continual coming out is actually not an uncommon experience for people around both gender and sexuality. Some people may find that they have fluid or situationally based changes in their gender or sexuality, while others may have a more consistent identity. It is also possible to discover more things about yourself that you may not have had the words or community to recognize previously. Even for those whose identity doesn’t change much over time, coming out generally happens in stages, for different reasons and to different people.

It is not necessary to come out to everyone in your life each time you reframe your identity and, in fact, can be quite exhausting to do so. It may be important to prioritize who should know and when those around you should know about it.


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This poem was written and performed by Erin Upchurch in 2011 as a part of the Columbus, OH Transgender Day of Remembrance. This year, we wanted to bring it back. With the recent murder of Cemia “Cece” Dove from Cleveland, OH and many other members of the trans community, this poem really hits home for us.

Thank you to all of the Trans*, Gender Non-Conforming and Allied people who took part in this video and thank you to Erin Upchurch for creating this amazing piece and allowing us to adapt it into video.

A good piece on the term third gender and a case of its previous use in a documentary and how it has racial connotations. It is essential to be aware of how even neutral sounding terms can have more complex backgrounds and take this as another reminder of how important it is to use caution, accuracy, and mindfulness in language.